Disorientation: The First Step Towards New Orientation.

Feeling disoriented? Good! You're getting out of comfort zone into growth zone.

@QJ Yu

I started to go to evening networking events.

A.

It's an activity that I have avoided for years.

I looked everywhere else:

• daytime networking

• weekend networking

• hosting my own networking

• online networking, etc.

Until everything else not working, I finally came back looking eye to eye at evening networking again.

B.

Why did I avoid it for so long?

The disorientation. It's like dropping into a foreign country without a map.

Ohh.. how I dreaded disorientation.

C.

I'm a morning bird. It's a trait that starts to imprint in my genes.

I loved the morning serene hours:

Getting up before anyone else.Immersed in the silent whisper of nature and my soul on wisdoms that do not reveal at any other times.Being able to stay on top of things with discipline.

Guess what's most important discipline for a morning bird?

To be able to hit bed early, consistently.

Going to evening networkings absolutely goes against that.

D.

I remember driving towards the event, feeling dreadful: "This is supposed to be my time to slow down, and now I'm speeding up..."

And when I came back from the event: millions of to-do items hung in my head. When I eventually fell asleep, it was midnight...

Needless to say, how tired and dull I felt the next day...

I became disoriented. The orientations that gave me anchor to keep rhythm can no longer be relied on.

E.

I know I can no longer keep my status quo.

I want new results. I have to let go some of my existing golden rules, and give room to new activities.

But I loved my existing routines! They worked really well for me!

I felt stretched and challenged.

And that's when the concept of "Reorientation" emerged - as a way of gaining self agency.

Let me explain.

F.

When we get confined in a reality that no longer serves us:

Our existing routines may work well for creating results we already have. But if we want new results, greater results - we have to be willing to let loose, and adopt new activities.

At the beginning, they are disorienting. For some period:

Our performance drops.Our energy goes down.We may not feel like ourselves for a while.

(BTW - That's why you didn't see me post yesterday).

However, we disrupt ourselves with a purpose - in order to rise with a higher potential.

Through that painful process of re-adjusting, we start to learn and gain new habits. We start to let go old constraints.

If we really stick with the process and continuously reflect on what we do, there will come a point our brain and body get attuned to new routines that serve a greater purpose.

→We get re-oriented into a new reality.

But it all starts from being willing to let go existing orientations, before finding the new orientations.

G.

When our dream gets stuck to be a dream, instead of a reality - it's helpful to check whether we cling to our existing orientations too much that stops us from orienting towards a new life.

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